THINGS TO DO WHEN YOUR PARENTS REJECT YOUR MARITAL CHOICE

If your parents reject your marital choice please do the following:
1. Check yourself. Don’t just jump into conclusion that your parents are bad or wicked to have reject your beloved, rather, check yourself, check your relationship, your conviction and your parent’s reasons for the rejection.
Your parent’s actions may be a wake-up call from the Lord; it may also be a signal that all is not well.

2. Be patience. When things happen like this, do not rush, don’t take any rash decision, don’t elope, and don’t go into marriage of disobedience. Rather, wait to see what the Lord is trying to tell you.

3. Pray. Be prayerful; commit your parent’s decision, your actions, the situation, etc into the hands of the Lord. Then tell him to give you wisdom to handle the situation.

4. Counsel. Go for counsel, talk to a qualify marriage counselor or pastor, not your friends who are members of your supporters club and will only see things the way you see it.

5. Be persistence. If you are very sure and convinced that you are doing the right thing, then be persistence; if your parent see your resolve, they will listen to you.

6. Apply wisdom. Be wise, don’t blame foolishly, don’t do things you will regret in future. Don’t join your beloved to abuse your parents, be wise.

7.Open communication channel. Talk deeply with your parents, communicate effectively with them, let them know your mind and reasons for your choice.

8. Diplomacy. Be diplomatic the way you handle your parents. Don’t ever forget your God commanded you to respect them. Instead of fighting them, look for their trusted friends, pastors, neighbors or family members that can help you
to talk to them.
Rose Mushi